Have you ever been totally 100% committed to something that it doesn’t even dawn on you to give up, turn around or walk away?
For some people, that’s what their marriage or relationship feels like. For others, losing weight or training for a marathon. And for others, pursuing a dream business. Yet, as I look around, I also see many instances of people hedging their bets. Having a plan B just in case. Now logically you might think, well it’s good to have options. No need to put all your eggs in one basket. And if we were having a conversation about diversification of your stock portfolio and risk management, I’d agree.
But this isn’t about risk management. It’s about energy alignment within you. And alignment makes or breaks your success.
Let’s consider the energy behind total commitment versus not. When you are totally committed, your heart, mind, body and soul are aligned. You have a clear picture of what you want. You are taking conscious, consistent steps. You are putting in the time, the energy and yes, sometimes the sweat. You are learning what you need to learn, reframing obstacles, and talking down the hooglie-booglies in your head that question whether you can do this. You are stretching yourself in all directions, but your dominant energy is peacefully grounded in your heart’s desire. It’s inspiring, devoted and focused. Worth every wink. Tasks get completed, doors open to new opportunities, resources show up to help you, and synchronicities unfold. Feeling proud and empowered, you know you are being guided by something bigger than yourself. Most importantly, you are sending a clear message to the Universe. And because it’s clear, the Universe can deliver what you want.
When you are not in the energy of full commitment, you are in a “let’s see” mode.
You aren’t quite sure. You take random, partial steps. You dabble. Try this and that. You’re scattered in focus. You get sporadic results. And shiny buttons? Oooo, you follow them in a flash and forget what you were doing. Inside the hooglie-booglies are having a riot, at your expense. “You can’t do that… who do you think you are…. what if you fail…. what if they don’t like you…. what if they laugh….. what if you lose everything…. what if you succeed and don’t like it…. what if it’s too much work… what will you have to give up…. you’re tired…. why bother…. it’s not worth it…. see, it’s not working…. we told you…. why don’t you listen…. you and your pipe dreams…. just quit before you make a complete fool of yourself.“ (Trust me, they don’t just live in your head!) And the Universe? As you feel scattered in your sporadic attempts and mixed messages, the Universe has no choice but to give you more circumstances that confuse, scatter energy and keep you stuck. Can you relate?
When I work with a woman on transforming her body or life, this cycle often comes up.
She’s not lazy, she just hasn’t locked on to the energy of total commitment. And it’s often because she doesn’t know what that feels like. All her life, she’s given herself an out. She’s started sabotaging herself before she even starts. Deep down, she already believes she’s going to fail. Or fears it so much that she creates it into existence. At the first sign of resistance, she shrinks. She doesn’t yet see the divine power and grace within her to rise and succeed. And then she watches others achieve their goals and wonders, “What’s wrong with me?” Heartbreaking.
And yet, success at its core is simple. It involves just one thing at a time.
A step. Then another. If you can take one step at a time, you can succeed. And if each step is celebrated so much that you are now excited to take the next, AWESOME! Momentum breathes magic. Soon you cannot believe how far you’ve come. It’s an amazing feeling.
Pause and Take Note
Look at something you are working on right now: a marriage, a decluttering project, a business goal, weight loss or anything else.
- Are you dabbling or totally committed?
- Are you hedging your bets to see how things turn out or all-in making it happen with energy and inspiration at your feet?
- Are you waking up already visualizing success or are you counting all the potential reasons why this might not work out?
- Are you focused on that one important step or overwhelmed by the whole journey in front of you?
Can you feel the difference energetically? Night and day, beautiful. If you need a Plan B for your sanity or risk management, do so and then put it in drawer, kind of like a life insurance policy. But keep your energy focused on living full-out every day.
If we keep dancing with Plan B…. or C or D, how can Plan A (the one we really want) shine?
Energy is energy. If you want to dabble, expect only a dabble for results. If you want success, lock on those wings! It’s show time. I can help.
Love,
Paula
P.S. What’s the Plan A you are working toward? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
