Who Owns Your Happiness?

Who Owns Your Happiness?

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Ever wait for others to make you happy? Ever blame others for your unhappiness?

I love this quote from Abraham-Hicks:

“Tell everyone you know: ‘My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.’ And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good.” — Abraham-Hicks

Last November, I spent the weekend in a hotel by myself. It was the mini vacation (OK, be honest Paula… more like ‘escape’) I needed to get this message loud and clear. Sure I could easily blame others for my (then) unhappiness, poor health, resentment and feelings of overwhelm. It would have been so easy to do that.

But guess what?  That would have kept me stuck. I would have experienced more unhappiness, poor health, resentment and feelings of overwhelm.  It didn’t take me long in that hotel room to get that.  No one can make us happy (at least not long-term.)

We each need to take responsibility for our lives — for our bodies, our emotions, and our actions. Not only do we need to, we want to — it’s the key to a magical life.

As you go about this week, notice who owns your happiness.

You or someone else? You or a circumstance?  You or the task in front of you? You or the weather? 

And then notice what causes you to ditch your happiness for something less desirable (but obviously more addictive in the moment).

Hmmmm… this is a juicy one. Did I strike a chord with you? I’d love to hear.

Love and happiness,
Paula

 

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Paula Onysko
Paula Onysko is a money & business coach with 20 years of experience as a successful multi six-figure entrepreneur. Combining her corporate business background with coaching and communications expertise, Paula helps soulful entrepreneurs create more income with ease, flow and fun. She guides them to expand their money mindset, create compelling offers, message their magic and sell the soulful way. Discover how she can help you.

7 thoughts on “Who Owns Your Happiness?”

  1. Paula …

    As you well know, the Key to personal Happiness lies within!

    I own my own happiness and, as a result, am the only one responsible for it!

    Further on this thought … I prefer, and have chosen, to live my life in a positive, optimisitc, upbeat, caring, and loving manner which, for me, goes hand in hand with being happy. For me, this is the elixir of life.

    Thank you Paula for this extremely thought-provoking blog … It is my sincere hope that your blog brings others into deep reflection.

    Yours in Love,
    Murray

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  2. Yes, yes Murray. So much lies within. In a self discovery journey I led a few years back, my signature phrase to fellow journeyers was, “Heartwork is artwork. Journey within.”

    It’s really the essence behind sparkle and sage. The sage is the inner wisdom and energetic foundation, which then allows the sparkle to flow out of us and into the world effortlessly.

    Now that’s yummy.

    Hugs, Paula

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  3. Hi Paula, i was surprised to read your article, as my sister and I were talking about this over the weekend too. well, actually she was telling me off, because since me and my partner broke up i ve been blaming him for everything!and she was trying to make myself think outside the box, now i read this too and I must admit, that being in this frame of mind is not helping me, and Im getting stuck.

    thank you for your words,
    with love
    silvina

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  4. Dear Silvina,

    Your awareness is growing, which is wonderful to see. Even beginning to notice that you are stuck and that what you are doing isn’t working is forward movement. I promise.

    So consider this. Everytime we blame someone else, we actually give them our power. When we say, “It’s your fault”, we actually lessen our ability to choose. To move forward in our lives, we want to bring that energy back into our own body, heart and mind so we are in a position to choose differently… and get excited about our lives again!

    I have so many ideas for you. If you’d like to work together on them, send me an email and we can arrange some private sessions. If not, I also have a great resource for you to help move you forward. Her name is Colette Kenney and she is an amazing relationship counsellor. Check out http://www.colettekenney.com. Even just following her blog or her fan page on Facebook will give you alot of support.

    Lots of love,
    Paula

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