CHOICE: It is the one thing we can exercise at any moment. We can choose how we act, what we think, what we believe, who we spend time with, where we go, what we say and how we live.
It is the most powerful tool we have in our inner toolbox to transforming our lives – regardless of what has happened yesterday, last week or a decade ago.
But if we have choice in every moment, then why aren’t we living our ideal life all the time?
We either don’t think we truly have a choice. Or we don’t feel we have the power to exercise that choice. Or we are scared of what that choice will bring as consequence to ourselves and others. Or we are just asleep in our own lives.
So where do we have choice and where don’t we? Let’s find out.
For the next week, I want you to transform your language by inserting these two powerful words everywhere.
Whenever you catch yourself saying: I have to… I can’t… I should… Replace that with I CHOOSE.
Here are some examples:
Before: I have to work late and miss my child’s soccer game.
After: I choose to work late and miss my child’s soccer game
Before: I should eat a healthy lunch today because it’s good for me.
After: I choose to eat a healthy lunch today because it’s good for me.
Before: I can’t afford to buy that pair of jeans.
After: I choose not to buy that pair of jeans right now.
Feel the difference?
Choosing is taking back your power – moving from victim to creator.
We always have a choice. And when you start to insert these two powerful words, you are going to come against the edges of your thinking as to where you feel you have power to choose and where you don’t.
“But wait a minute… I don’t choose to work late. I don’t choose to miss my child’s activity.”
In the short term, that might be true. But long-term, we choose the ways in which we bring wealth into our lives. We choose the boundaries we set for our employer/client at work. And we teach people how to treat us.
So try it. Start inserting “I choose” in front of as many sentences as you can. And to make it really juicy, add the “instead of” part.
I choose to let this person treat me poorly instead of standing up for myself.
I choose to feel bad about events of the past instead of moving forward to creat a new life for myself.
I choose to sabotage my success by not keeping myself promises instead of powerfully creating a life beyond my wildest dreams.
I choose to eat to soothe myself instead of facing my emotions head on so I can become free of them.
“WHOAH… I’m really choosing this! Life isn’t just happening to me. I’m choosing these circumstances I don’t want.”
Then in that moment, we can shift. We choose again.
I choose to stand up for myself instead of letting this person treat me poorly.
I choose to create a new life instead of feeling bad about my past.
I choose to powerfully creating a life beyond my wildest dreams instead of sabotaging my success by not keeping my self promises.
I choose to face my emotions head on so I can become free of them instead of eating to soothe myself.
Let’s use more examples that support our wellness:
I choose to eat this bright red apple instead of the chocolate dessert that is going to go straight to my thighs.
I choose to surround myself with amazing friends that inspire instead of people that suck the life out of me.
I choose to get to bed on time so my body can properly rejuvenate instead of watching mindless TV.
I choose to ask for help instead of running myself ragged just to say I did it ALL!
Find the edges of where you think you have choice and where you don’t.
There is always a choice – you just need to look for it! And when you do – FREEDOM, baby, FREEDOM!